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Saturday, 28 June 2025

Failure is the Universal Lecturer of Life!

 Failure Is Not Defeat!


What to Expect from this Failure Mind Map.

Misperceptions about Failure.
Life and those treacherous Storms.
Be your Best version of you.
Stop seeking approval and realise your Worth.
In Conclusion.

Misperceptions about Failure.

Failure is not defeat and is often believed to be so as a result of misdirection. Your mind is playing tricks on you, "This is the end", it says. Well, it's wrong!

Not only is failure the cornerstone of Wisdom, but it is also the head lecturer at the University of Life! You didn't fail, because that is impossible. Failure is an illusion. Stop listening to yourself!

One of many legends I admire, who also happened to have created the lightbulb, once stated in defiance of failure, "I have not failed, I've just found 10,000 ways that won't work" - Thomas Edison


In reality and in my opinion, failure is impossible provided you refuse to give up. That is the only time you can fail, when you give up! All the other times, you learned. You "learn" or you "earn" but you NEVER fail!

Life and those treacherous Storms.

At some point, you are going to want to just give up, and life has no mercy. It will beat you down relentlessly! "Life is not fair", I hate to break it to you, but it never will be.

It is not life that gets "easier"; it is you who grow stronger, you who refuse to give up! Each and every one of us fights a war no one knows about, be it financial, matters of the heart or whatever sparks that desperation.

Every failure brings with it those dark clouds and a deep black hole that can swallow you instantly. You must look beyond that, because each failure is just another step to the greatness you deserve!


There is this quote which just popped into my head, I have my moments, "If it's easy, it's not worth the effort; if it's difficult, it holds unimaginable yield". The road to greatness is paved with tears.

Each failure is just one step closer to your goal, which is why you need to make the freedom you crave greater than the need you feel. First, you ride out the storm of failure, so the light of success can find you on this vast ocean of despair.

When life whispers "give up", determination responds "just one more day". Before you know it, just one more day becomes your "one day". Ride it out, you got this!

Be your Best version of you.

There is only one person exactly like you, so revel in your uniqueness! No need to "wish I was...", or "oh if I can only be like...", or "if only I looked like...". Stop it!

Be determined to be the best version of you; those who don't like it should not be in your bubble. However, never neglect being kind, because kindness is not weakness. So often confused by some. Kindness cultivates greatness.


We were all born with talents, and you need to find yours. The key is determination, and when life's clouds are dark, that is the real challenge. Finish what you started when you were born and be the best version of you.

Go to bed each night content with the fact that you have accomplished something, regardless of how insignificant you may consider it to be. It still is a determined step in the right direction.

Stop seeking approval and realise your Worth.

Map your mind around this, stop seeking approval, stop trying to impress. You have only one person to impress, that is you! Impress yourself, and others will notice your radiance. Let your confidence and tiny steps in the right direction reveal your worth.

Trying to please everyone is impossible; upsetting the whole lot is "a piece of cake". People will only see you from their perspective, but they don't stare in your mirror, nor do they walk in your shoes. Focus on impressing only one person; it's much less exhausting!


A wise man once told me, "Sometimes you're the hammer, and other times you're the nail" This will stay with me for life! Always find a way to do the best you can with what you have where you stand. 

Do that in an honourable fashion that brings a silent smile to your face, and you will never require approval. Knowing you did your best, and even if you fail, you can rest assured in the knowledge that you gave it maximum effort!

In Conclusion.

Life is a journey, not a contest, and failure is not defeat but rather one step closer to the greatness you deserve. Map that around your head, you didn't fail, you learned. 

If you learned but one new thing each day, by the end of each passing year, you would have learned 365 "new things". Now imagine what you can accomplish in 5 or 10 years. Just a thought.

It might be a lot of failures, but it is also a ton of wisdom available only from the University of Life. Said account is settled with blood, tears and maximum effort. Your blood, tears and maximum effort.

Focus on impressing only one person: you. And your confident radiance shall do the rest. Find your talent and lay claim to the greatness you deserve!

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Our Cosmic Marvel Turned To Dust!

 A Cosmic Marvel Turned to Dust!

The Result Of Our Own Hate, Of Ignorance, And Of Lust!

What you will learn from this post.

A poem by Deon Christie.
Listen to the author’s voice.
A Cosmic Marvel Turned To Dust.
My "Map Your Mind" message to you.

A poem by Deon Christie

As unpleasant it is to admit, our world is dying as a result of petty differences, ignorance, and lust. A poem dedicated to place exclamation of our disrespect as a species, leading to our imminent demise!

The world we created are of inconsideration, destruction, and hate. Our world is dying and along with her all of our existence, soon to fade into evolutionary history.

A Cosmic Marvel Turned To Dust.

A once vibrant Cosmic marvel turned to dust,

the result of hate, and of ignorance and of lust!

An illusion we have of being the crown of creation,

an illusion that has caused none but devastation!

As our giver of life stands right before our eyes,

we choose to bicker, argue, and fight over things and over lies!

There are powers far greater than our understanding of gods,

when in truth we may all be wrong, or right, what are the odds?

We are from the Earth and that should be our church,

we are the protectors of life and as such must emerge.

Is nature then, not the apex of amazement and burst of life,

when we so comfortably trade that for money, possessions, and strife.

Creating a twisted mental persistence to compete,

when in the end it will all be imminently absolute.

Nature is my church and the Universe my religion,

while the opinions others may have are but a smidgen.

I am the forest dweller and ambassador for truth,

adding to the spice of life just a tiny dash of vermouth.

A protector, poet, thinker, and a writer who knows no restraint,

be it as it may, my decisions and path are always quaint.

Some may understand the poem, some may not. It describes humanity and the devastation we cause. I too am “guilty” because we have created an existence from which there is no escape.

We all use deodorant, toothpaste, washing powder, various chemicals, products packaged in plastic, need I really go on? But don’t get me going, this can easily turn into an eBook!

My "Map Your Mind" message to you.

Our daily lives, good people, and bad are all connected in some way by the things we use. No other life form on Earth needs so many “attachments” to survive, or just live for that matter.

Let me put it this way, just as an example. If almost 8 billion people used one plastic bag, that ended up in the ocean. That is 8 billion (well almost 8 billion) plastic bags marine life have to suffocate on.

We live in a world, sadly, where some of those we trust to dispose the waist “when we do our part”. Sometimes they do not do theirs, otherwise our planet and oceans would not suffer in such a mess.

Perhaps I’m just a rambling fool, but I cannot ignore what I see. I find it disturbing to see what had become of our planet in such a short time. Experts believe we are in the midst of the Sixth Mass Extinction Level Event!

The above mentioned article shocked me! The last extinction level event happened around 65.5 million years ago with the dinosaurs, we all know that story, right?

Anatomically modern humans emerged around 300,000 years ago in Africa. For most of history, humans were nomadic hunter-gatherers. Humans began exhibiting behavioral modernity about 160,000–60,000 years ago. – Wikipedia Source

To me 65.5 million years, measured against around 300,000 years of existence I find rather alarming. That basically means, when we use time as a measure of our planet’s existence. It took us mere seconds to destroy it.

Just let that sink in for a bit. And that is where my poem comes from, inspired by facts of destruction. Fueled by betrayal, lust, and greed makes it an even sadder and more disturbing tale.

In conclusion, all I have to say is I think we should return to being humble, and being kind. No matter your level of success, it gives you no right to discard other life, being rude and being unkind.

If we had a little more compassion and consideration, I doubt experts would have had reason to believe we are already in the sixth extinction level event.

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Experience The Power Of A Sincere Oath

A Short Story on the Power of an Oath!

What this short story is all about.

Where it all started decades ago.
The Oath and the Old Oak Tree.
The power of an honest oath.
A journey through life after love.
When the dust settled after it all went wrong.

Where it all started decades ago.

A short story about two people (Charlotte and Nathan), and an honest oath. An oath that was eternally binding to one, but not the other. Then came the betrayal that changed one life forever, bound to an oath with powerful consequences. A broken trust that could never again be mended. Enjoy the read.

The Oath and the Old Oak Tree.

Early morning and the campus grounds are like anthills, swarming as everyone rushes to classes. Nathan is late, again, as are his compadres who all had a blast last night. Being young stupid is a requirement in order to one day be old and wise, unfortunately.

Being a little more reckless than “the rest”, but still just a group of young men on their journey to a career. For Nathan, the “blast” was more of a pity party though. He had caught his girlfriend of two years “red handed” and “in the act”.

But no matter how his campus friends tried to cheer him up, the betrayal had a huge impact on him. Why would she do that, and how long has that been going on for? When all signs indicated they were happy! Thoughts messing up his head, as class is the last thing on his mind.

They make it on time, none the less and the day carries on. A few weeks later the wounds finally started healing. But with his “X” on the same campus ground, “happy” with her new found love is like ripping off the scabs every day.

What he didn’t notice, was Charlotte. As the idea of getting a “girlfriend” took the back seat. But Charlotte noticed him, long before Anita’s betrayal. She had her eye on him for quite a while, and now she has to play her cards just right.

But approaching and convincing a broken heart is not an easy task, it did however not stop Charlotte from trying. Slowly she started moving into his “line of sight”, being one of the girls on campus with beauty beyond comparison. It will not take Nathan long to notice her.

A couple of months had gone by, and finally quite a few cups of coffee and visits with Charlotte. She came in at just the right time, when Nathan who would never admit it, needed someone like her the most. Kind hearted, caring and just all around awesome!

The pair soon became a couple and the envy of many, Anita was not as impress because Charlotte was competition, hands down. But she knew verry well that her chances with Nathan will never again be. A young man that despises two things in life the most. Lies and adultery.

To him, it matters not between girlfriend, fiancé, or wife. To Nathan, these are all the same. He believes that if you do not love someone truly, and from the depths of your heart. Then a piece of paper and jeweler is not going to make any difference.

What Charlotte didn’t realize at the time, was that Nathan had never loved anyone that much. Perhaps she was his first real love, but she was most likely his last! They became inseparable, and Charlotte’s father grew really fond of Nathan. The mother not so much though.

Charlotte’s father saw something different in Nathan. While her mother only saw a long haired “hippy” with hidden agendas. She could not have been more wrong, because chances of anyone else ever loving Charlotte that much was rather slim.

Nathan’s family was crazy about Charlotte and welcomed her with open arms on every occasion. Nathan and Charlotte were the typical young couple, deeply in love and admired by many. No one thought what came next could ever happen!

The power of an honest oath.

Another crazy student’s night, out with friends, Charlotte and Nathan arrives back at the campus grounds. Happy and in love, obviously had a bit too much to drink, as things often go being young and dumb.

Beneath an old oak tree, they settle on the wooden bench in the beautiful campus gardens. Proclaiming their love for each other and sealing it with the oath.

I want to spend the rest of my life with you, and if I cannot have a life with you. Then I do not want a life with any other, I love you that much!” Charlotte said to Nathan.

He just melted into the wooden bench, finding himself wondering many times. “What does someone so perfect ever see in me?” Her words burned into his heart as he proclaimed his love in return.

Me too, baby. I have never loved anyone as much as I love you. If I cannot have a life with you, then I don’t want to and never will have a life with anyone else!” He responded, and perhaps sealed his fate.

If I cannot have a life with you, I do not want or will have a life with any other!”, like an old bell it echoed through eternity. Perhaps the old oak tree under which the oath was made played its part. Being a powerful mystical tree.

A journey through life after love.

Almost a year had gone past, and Nathan’s love for Charlotte had just grown stronger. Their lives together had just entered overdrive as Nathan finished his studies, he was now a promising young lawyer with several law firms after him. A promising future, and the two could not be happier. Parents from both sides were over the moon, with exclusion to Charlotte’s mother.

Nathan accepted a job offer with a ridiculously large salary package from one of the biggest law firms. The model couple started setting engagement and wedding dates, and they couldn’t be happier. But for Charlotte, this was now merely on the surface.

Deep down she started doubting their future together. But then the mother also played her part. Filling Charlotte’s head with ideas and lies, just to serve her own agenda. She had someone else in mind for Charlotte, and slowly but surely played her part.

Nathan went on to have the most exquisite ring designed, as a surprise for Charlotte. They were to get engaged in a few weeks’ time. He did not spare any expense, as money was not a problem for this successful young man with long hair and tattoos.

It all went south so fast! Nathan arrives at Charlottes’ dormitory, as she was in her final year. A promising young surgeon, with a bright future with a really successful young lawyer. The perfect love story, or not!

Two weeks before their engagement, Charlotte decides to drop the bomb on Nathan. She wanted to break up, as she no longer saw a future for them together. Perhaps the real cause was the weekends in tears at home as her mother loved tearing Nathan apart in his absence.

I didn’t want to break up with you before your final exams and jeopardize your chances at success”, she said. “But this has been a long time coming”. She crushed him in an instance with those words.

Please don’t do this!” he started begging. “What happened to if I cannot have a life with you?” as he took her hands, while tears ran down his cheeks. Perhaps his intensity was too much, as Charlotte just shrugged and ran back into the dormitory.

Two hearts lied shattered on that campus sidewalk that night, or was it really just one? Nathan did not see a way forward without Charlotte and seeing her with someone else the next day was the final nail in his coffin.

He had no choice but to leave because he couldn’t stomach seeing her with another guy. The “new guy” turned out to be Charlotte’s mother’s choice for her daughter, she finally succeeded in her plan.

Nathan fell apart, completely and went on a self-destruct. No friends or family members could stop this inevitable demise he was about to inflict upon himself. Or perhaps the demise brought by through a sincere oath.

Nathan left town and his promising career behind. He could not bring himself to stay and build a life there without Charlotte. But the self-destruct didn’t end there. What could have been a promising career, now turned into a shadow of the man that could have been.

From promising young lawyer to nightclub owner. Nathan soon had his fill of interested young woman. But none could break through to him, they were mere “means to an end”. But to what end, perhaps he would never know.

When the dust settled after it all went wrong.

Charlotte returned months later with apologies and explanations, but by then it was too late. The trust was broken, and for Nathan love meant nothing without trust. But he let her into his apartment just the same, to hear her out.

Or perhaps he just wanted to test his own strength in her presence. But as much as he still loved her, and probably always would, the apologies fell on deaf ears. A trust, and a sacred oath was broken and can never be repaired.

I was SO wrong, and I realized too late what I had. Can you ever forgive me, can we ever go back to what once was?”. Perhaps she was sincere, perhaps not. It did not matter anymore. He took her by the hand, and with strange, both cold and warm loving eyes, he said.

I love you now, and probably always will with every fiber of my being. But I will never trust you again, and you know my value of trust. There can be no true love, without true trust, that ship unfortunately already left for us…

Charlotte left Nathan’s place in tears, never to see him again. Realizing what she’d done, and the impact of her actions took her some time to recover from. She had learned the power of a sincere oath, and the consequences of breaking it.

Nathan would never fully recover. As he watched her leave with tears running down his cheeks. Wanting nothing more than to be with her, feel her warmth again. He only realizes decades later; he was unable to ever really love or trust another again.

As the years went by, Nathan left the nightclub scene and decided to give being a lawyer another shot. Basically starting all over, as it had been decades since. Only this time he would be living a life, flying solo.

The two never saw each other again but might be forever in each other’s thoughts. A stupid decision and the power of a sincere oath decades ago, may forever echo through the universe.

The ability to love someone in such a way, that he couldn’t imagine his life without her had been lost forever. Tied to a most powerful oath, under an old oak tree.

The End.

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Failure is the Universal Lecturer of Life!

  Failure Is Not Defeat! What to Expect from this Failure Mind Map . Misperceptions about Failure. Life and those treacherous Storms. Be you...